Put not thy trust in thyself or any man

It was Christmas of that year, the holiday usually lit with loads of food to fill the mind and soul.

So this particular break, this holiday prior to my second semester ,second year in the university .My parent’s talk about studying hard and all was just different, it was on another level. Thinking about it now, that was like the only year my mum emphasized on me not failing a course. It was like she had a premonition or something.

Their talks would usually be like -“iwe e ni ko la ka ni school oh. Ko ka dada, ma kegbe oh, se omo dada” bla bla… Interpretation-Your primary duties/role in school is to study, study hard o! Don’t keep bad friends etc… They never tell me about failing, their statements were usually expressed positively. Probably ‘cause they could not bring themselves to pronounce the word or maybe they just wanted the best and nothing less.

This particular day I am talking about, I was behind my mum in the car, she had just began one of her pep talks, then she entered another realm- she goes like, you must not have carry over, thi girl! You must not fail a course o! And I respond, ahn ahn! Mummy! Don’t you trust me, I cannot fail, I will not. I am so irritated at myself right now, see the pride laced speech; I was just a boastful cow! LOL! The good lord was just over there on His throne laughing at my proud, boastful self. She got home, called me to her room and still was emphatic about me not failing any course. My mama must have seen it coming.

Fast-forward to resumption, a month after, results were out. Guess what?! LOOL! Baby girl flunked two main courses. The tears did not come to ease my heavy chest, I actually did not cry but I was the saddest girl on the planet. I remember seeing a counselor, I talked to my papi, a senior who excelled in the course I studied.

Miraculously I was able to retake the two courses again in my third and fourth year; I truly believe my God was too involved. He wanted to show me something, I had learnt my lesson. Yeah! I passed them this time, thank God.

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I have known these dudes for a number of years now, one longer than the other. These folks are/were just an awesome bunch. They don’t know each other, but they are/were both my bestest male nominees in my best friend category. They possessed all the qualities my good man should have.

I was so overwhelmed by their awesomeness and similarities that I had written about their similarities in my journal one night. I love these dudes so much, so much, believed in them completely they actually have been awesome for the past x number of years. Shortly after, I realized my write-up was put down too soon. I was left dazed by the things they did and said just months after I put down their stories, qualities et al .

My belief is everything happens to me for a reason or reasons. Being boastful helps nobody, nobody at all. They say pride goes right before a fall. Omo! A baby girl is trying her best to be very humble these days. When I begin to think I accomplished anything by myself, I quickly acknowledge my Daddy-Jehovah Alpha. God is my source, He is our source, He is the giver of good success; He is the one true friend, ‘cause no matter how far or long a time I wander off, he still embraces me when I come back with my sorry ass. I have learnt to trust Him completely in all that I do.

Failure is inevitable my baby girls and boys, in this world we live in, it is very necessary as you go on with your activities pushing towards fulfillment of your goals. I don’t know any great man on this earth who wouldn’t have encountered failure or disappointment at a point in his/her life. What you do honey, is stand, talk to God about it and press on.

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Another thing I have learnt is to pray for my friends and my relationships-with my family and loved ones. I have lost a couple of friends, so the ones I have left and cherish I pray to God to glace it with milk and honey. My friends think it is a joke when I pray this prayer, but a baby girl gat to protect her own and God is the greatest shield and protector. Make your relationship(s) a tripartite thing– God, your friend/family and yourself. Long lasting relationships usually flow like that.

What I am trying to say my darling is trust God in all your endeavors, acknowledge Him in all your ways, He doesn’t disappoint