On this beautiful cold morning which I had envisaged to make it to church really early, my excruciatingly painful experience with my shoes deterred my plans.
Although my alarm went off, I didn’t hear it until minutes after I had set it to go off. “All well and good, I was pretty still on track for my early arrival at church today”, I thought to myself. I got dressed and ready, only for me to try on my boots and I realized they were now a little tighter than I remember. The last time I had them on was sometime in February or March(pre lock down ish)
As I felt the slight discomfort, I was like…ermmm, well I can manage it for a couple of hours. This small discomfort won’t hinder me from “slaying” today.
So I headed out of my apartment with high hopes that I’d make it to church early today. Only for me to walk down the block, about two minutes down my journey and the discomfort intensified. Four minutes down the block, it got worse but I kept saying to myself perhaps with time my feet will adjust, the shoe will expand.
Six minutes down, my feet were throbbing! I was sweating so bad from the discomfort on a cold Sunday morning. Ahh! I couldn’t take it anymore, I began to weigh the cost of going back or just enduring the pain all the way. If I go back, I’d be late, if I went forward I wouldn’t enjoy the service one bit in such an uncomfortable state.
Sigh! Painfully, I had to go back home to change into something a lot more comfortable. And I ended up arriving church late,and my feet feeling somewhat sore
Why would the holy spirit want me to share my story with my shoes with you? Stay with me, I am getting there.
The excruciating pain I felt in my feet was only a peek of what it could feel like when one goes into the wrong marriage.
Shoes in the spirit realm and prophetically symbolize one’s marital destiny. For example if one has a dream of losing his or her shoes, that isn’t exactly a good sign and prayers need to go up to God ASAP about such dreams. I learned this from men and women of God. Moreso, Deuteronomy 25:7-10 describes a man who refuses to marry his dead brother’s wife which was traditionally required of him. Because of this act, that family line was known in Israel as The Family of the Unsandaled – Deuteronomy 25:10
I do not think I understood how God will make shoes symbolic of marital destinies. I just believed what men and women of God had said about it. But this Sunday morning, it became clearer, it felt like some kind of light shined on the subject matter for me.
The way the kinds of shoes we wear determine our comfort, speed and charisma, so also the same way our marital lives for the greater parts of our lives determine our comfort, speed and carriage as we journey through life.
Just as I wanted to arrive at church so early and look good, so do many young adults including myself also want to get married so early and enjoy marriage which I think is a great thing if done with God’s leading. But many times, this isn’t the case which I believe may be the cause of the increasing rates of divorces globally.
Marriages that are done outside God’s leading and perfect will most times end up with parties feeling the same way I felt on that sunday morning; ravaged with excruciating pain, extremely discomforted, sweating profusely even with a weather as cool as that Sunday morning and ultimately arriving at predestined destinations really late or in worse cases never arriving at all.
Allow me to reiterate this somewhat popular and perhaps underrated statement that marriage is God’s plan and all of His plans are perfect & beautiful. Only if we listen and follow His directions! I believe God works out details of our lives precepts upon precepts,He made us that we would grow, mature and have a great level of His understanding before venturing into marriage. I strongly believe that our formative years before getting married has been designed by Him to be spent drenched in His presence; learning how to love, live in love through the power of the Holy Spirit.
Growing and basking in the the presence of the lord does a lot of refining, pruning to our lives than we could ever imagine. It also allows us to experience God’s refreshing love which makes it doable for us to love like Christ loved the church(selflessly)
And asides being able to love like Christ, we would be able to know and live by God’s directions concerning aspects of our lives including marriage while saving ourselves from the stress, pain and trauma of getting things wrong.
In summary, as we think about getting married whether early or not, let us think about our relationship with God right now. We should double check that we are growing in Christ and dying to self as well as capable of loving like God would want us to .
Furthermore, as we make such a delicate decision as with whom to spend the great number of our lives here on earth with. Let us prayerfully make these decisions because marrying the wrong person is such a horrible horrible predicament to be in.
And ultimately recognize that the marriage between a man and a woman here on earth foreshadows the union at the marriage supper of the lamb between Jesus Christ, our bridegroom and His bride ( as many as are born again & die in Christ ) – Revelation 19:7. As christians, this is our ultimate goal and vision; to be at that marriage supper with Christ. Therefore, let us decide in our hearts to get it right here on earth because when we do, it increases the chances, makes it easier for us to make it to the marriage supper.
I pray for as many of you that read this blog post that you would select the right shoes, the shoes God has designed for you in marriage in Jesus name.